Goal Setting for Achievers
“The tragedy in life does not lie in not reaching your goal
The tragedy lies in having no goal to reach”
Benjamin E Mays
What a powerful quote. As somebody who is now addicted to making goals (I literally write my Top 3 Goals out every single day) I know how important it is to be clear with myself about what I want. Main reason, nothing gets done otherwise!
But this wasn't always the case for me. Up until about 5 years ago, I was a pro at what I now call the "meh goal". Basically, I knew that I wanted more in life but massively lacked self worth and self discipline as a result. What I would do would be to "half set" a goal. It was rather a refined process so I thought just for fun, I would share to see if anybody resonates with this....
Remember, this is how to NOT set a goal.
Step 1: I'd say to myself "Wouldn't it be great if I could..." then for a split second a luxury, hairy scary, absolute dream of a goal would pop into my head. Then, when my cynicism took over, it'd then be transformed into something that my under-confident mind deemed "still a stretch, but possibly potentially achievable if I really went for it". In usual fashion, I'd half commit to it.
Step 2: Tell nobody. Far too risky.
Step 3: Pick out 1 thing that I could be doing to move me closer, without looking at what a sensible chronological order would be, and scold myself for having not yet done the thing.
Step 4: Procrastination. I hadn't aligned a specific date to the goal, so it was cool if I wasn't feeling it that day. Or the next week. Or month.
Step 5: Dismiss it. Realise that although I had an urge to do it it just wasn't the right time and I should be focussing on XYZ at the moment
So that's what not to do. I didn't know it at the time but it was limiting beliefs prompting the procrastination and I just didn't truly TRUST or believe that I was capable or worthy of achieving the goal.
Today, in both my business & personal life, I have annual goals that are broken down into quarters. Quarterly goals that are broken down into months. Monthly goals that are broken down into weeks. And weekly goals, you guessed it. My daily to-do list. But this can be a bit daunting for some people and especially if you're not a natural planner and struggle to keep track.
I believe there is a lot more that goes into goal-setting and I know that whether we are talking about a New Year's resolution or career goal, sometimes they are made for the wrong reasons. My mission is to help you to set goals that really mean something to you, and have the confidence in yourself to deliver.
Consider these scenarios when thinking about a recent goal you've set (and not achieved):
Is it possible you wanted to achieve this to impress or please someone other than yourself?
Is it possible that you knew achieving the goal would upset/frustrate somebody close to you?
Was this a short term or long term goal? If short term, did it match up with what you want your eventual future to look like?
If long term, did you give yourself a means to track the progress?
Did you believe this was the right thing for you?
Did you ever truly believe you could achieve it?
We could go on for hours but I hope these prompted some honest admissions within yourself. It's OK, we have all been there. It's tough to admit to yourself you may have been holding yourself back without realising it...
And I know how it feels. I know how it feels to brush aside another thing that didn't happen. To face people who you've told about it, having to explain "Yeah... I'm not doing that now.." Worse though, than anyone else's potential judgement, is your own judgement.
You are capable of immeasurable success. Period. I don't even need to know you to know that's true. I know sometimes you just need a nudge, some encouragement, and a way to hold yourself accountable. Which is why I have created a FREE Goal Setting workbook!
This workbook will ensure you:
* Set Goals you are really aligned with
* Define habits that will drive you towards the goal
* Track habits for 90 days
* Ensure you're fully invested
If you resonated with anything in this blog, or you simply are tired of letting yourself down, I implore you to give this goal setting workbook a chance to change your trajectory. Make sure you check out the magic 5 step change checklist!
Request your workbook here and it will be sent back to you via email, free of charge.
Remember to follow me on Instagram @rachelharrietcoaching, as I would LOVE to hear how you found it and what goals you've decided to drive forward!
Prefer to listen rather than read? Check out this (and other) subjects over on my podcast, Achieve with Me!!