Thinking outside of the box....
Hello! I hope you are all thriving. It's been a little while since my last blog/podcast and so I was keen to get back to it.
The topic of today's blog is going to be "thinking outside of the box", and this will be focussed on considering alternative options to get towards your goal and ultimately, achieving success!
(It's what we're all here for, right?!)
Not my dachshund in the picture, but is definitely a doppelgänger for my little Pepper!
If you are listening to my podcast, or are checking out this blog - chances are you are pretty ambitious. Unfortunately, there is a lesser known curse that comes from being a high achiever. When we are focussed on personal development and moving forward we can be incredibly harsh on ourselves, and not celebrate our wins often enough because we are always focussing on the next thing, the next milestone, the next shiny object.
Can you relate?
This can often become a bit of a cycle if we don't meet our own expectations, and we become easily demotivated when we hit a stumbling block.
Actually, depending on where we are on our journey, we can often see a stumbling block as failure in totality!
What even is failure anyway? There are so many phrases out there you may have heard such as "It's not over until the fat lady sings" (awful phrase in my opinion).
When do we decide it's a failed attempt? This depends entirely on the individual.
We are programmed to avoid any risk in life and so trying something new can take some time to commit to. Once you have, and we step out of the comfort zone, it feels like everyone is watching.....
Watching with baited breath, ready to say "I told you so" when it doesn't work out.
Failure feels like the ultimate humiliation, which is why often in life we don't pursue things we feel called to, to keep us safe.
But we've got to stop thinking like this. Just because the first time we try something doesn't go perfectly, does NOT mean we have failed. It means we've discovered a method that wasn't the best fit.
I want you to think of a time where you've tried something and it "hadn't worked". Emphasis on the inverted commas!
How did you react? Did you just try to brush it under the carpet and think "Oh well, it's not for me". Or did you sit down and do a proper de-brief on what actually happened?
Chances are, 80% of what you did was right and it was the remainder that didn't quite work.
What would happen if you identified what didn't work and tweaked it? And tried again?
My goal here today is for you to start thinking about achieving differently.
If you're a regular reader, hopefully caught my blog post on Goal setting. If your Goal is truly aligned with you and where you want to go, the path to get there can be as long as it needs to be.
So let's start thinking outside of the box. Take your initial goal, and try to strip it back to the true reason you've set the goal. If your goal is a pay rise to "X amount",
Why do you want to earn that?
What will having that give you?
Why is that important to you?
Once you've refined your goal right back down to the true "Why", use this simple 5 step process to help you consider multiple paths:
Get some ideas written down: What are 5 different ways you could reach that end goal?
What's the fastest way? What way is likely to take the longest?
What way, in your opinion, is most likely to work?
List your paths in order of preference based on steps 1-3
Say this statement out loud: "I will reach my goal. It doesn't matter which path gets me there, nor does the duration. I am committed to reaching my goal, and each way I find that doesn't work is getting me 1 step closer".
The most important thing about this is being committed to the goal. I am always quoting statistics about goal setting because I find it fascinating, but honestly when you consider that just 8% of people achieve their new year's resolution, it's worth considering alternative paths.
I would absolutely love to hear if you've implemented this method, and how it's helped to shift your mindset about your ability to achieve. If you are not already, follow me on Instagram and pop me a message to let me know how you got on!
Remember, the only person who gets to be in control of your destiny is you.
You can make this happen!!
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